Emma Louise Worsley

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My deepest joy, inspiration & treasured only child. Your joy, sparkle and smile will be carried with me forever. So many wonderful times, journies and magic memories - Thank You. But, I didn't want just memories, I only wanted you. Love you forever, "more than the whole wide world and back again"...and then some more...SPIRIT ON SWEETHEART...xxx
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Friday 23rd January 2009:-
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*♥~I'M SO SORRY BUT I NEED TO TAKE A BREAK FROM GTS~♥*
*♥~I CAN'T THANK EVERYONE OF YOU~MY GTS FAMILY AND FRIENDS~ENOUGH FOR ALL THE SUPPORT YOU HAVE SHOWN BOTH EMMA'S SITE AND MYSELF OVER THE LAST 8 MONTHS BUT, I NEED TO TAKE A BREAK FROM GTS AS I HAVE NOT BEEN IN A GOOD PLACE FOR A WHILE NOW. PARTICULARLY OVER THE PAST 4-5 MONTHS, EVERY ASPECT OF MY HEALTH HAS SUFFERED AND I'VE STRUGGLED TO FIND A/MY PURPOSE AND MEANING IN LIFE WITHOUT MY DEEP JOY AND TREASURE, EMMA, PHYSICALLY HERE WITH ME. I AM, THEREFORE, NOT GOING TO BE AROUND GTS FOR THE FORESEEABLE FUTURE AS I ATTEMPT TO RE-BUILD SOME SORT OF A LIFE FOR MYSELF, BECAUSE, MOST OF ALL, I KNOW NOT ONLY THAT EMMA WOULD HATE TO SEE ME STRUGGLING LIKE THIS BUT, SHE ACTUALLY TOLD ME THROUGH A MEDIUM LAST YEAR THAT IT WAS UPSETTING HER SEEING ME IN SO MUCH PAIN. SO, WITH THIS IN MIND, I FEEL I NEED TO GO AND DO SOMETHING WHICH WILL ENSURE BOTH A LASTING MEMORIAL TO EMMA* AND ALSO SOMETHING THAT WILL MAKE HER AS PROUD OF ME AS I WAS OF HER~SHE WAS SUCH AN INSPIRATION TO SO MANY PEOPLE (*see following)~♥*

*♥~*THE EMMA WORSLEY MEMORIAL FUND*~♥*
*♥~INITIALLY, THIS WAS A FUND WHICH WAS SET-UP IN EMMA'S MEMORY AT THE REQUEST AND INSIGATION OF THE TUTORS, FRIENDS AND FELLOW STUDENTS OF LIVERPOOL COMMUNITY COLLEGE WHERE EMMA WAS A STUDENT. JUST BY GOING ROUND THE COLLEGE WITH COLLECTION BUCKETS IN THE FIRST WEEK-10 DAYS AFTER EMMA PASSED AWAY, ALMOST £500 WAS RAISED, WHICH WAS A GREAT ACHIEVEMENT. DONATIONS ALSO POURED IN FROM FAMILY, FRIENDS AND OTHERS WHO KNEW EMMA OR KNEW OF HER, WHICH THE FUNERAL DIRECTOR HANDLED, AND BY THE TIME I COLLECTED THAT FROM THE FUNERAL DIRECTORS IT HAD RAISED OVER £1,000 AND, WITH ADDITIONAL DONATIONS HAVING COME IN AFTERWARDS, THE FUND RAISED CLOSE TO £2,000 IN THE FIRST YEAR ALONE~A FANTASTIC AMOUNT~AND I NOW FEEL I NEED TO TRY BUILDING ON THIS WITH FURTHER FUND RAISING SO THAT WE CAN START PUTTING THE MEMORIAL FUND TO THE USE IT WAS INTENDED, WHICH IS TO PROVIDE BURSARIES, SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT FOR YOUNG PEOPLE WITH SPECIAL NEEDS, LIKE EMMA, TO ENABLE THEM TO HAVE BETTER ACCESS TO ALL THE PERFORMING ARTS THAT EMMA WAS INTERESTED IN~♥*

*♥~EMMA'S MEMORIAL FUND SITE AND KEEPING IN TOUCH~♥*
*♥~MY ♥FELT THANKS TO ALL MY GTS FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHO LIGHT CANDLES, LEAVE LOVELY TRIBUTES, PICTURES AND MESSAGES FOR EMMA AND MYSELF~EACH ONE OF THEM IS TREASURED AND BRINGS SO MUCH COMFORT TO ME, WHICH I CANNOT PUT INTO WORDS BUT, WHICH I AM SLOWLY BUT SURELY ENSURING I HAVE SAVED EACH AND EVERYONE OF. THIS IS SO THAT I CAN, HOPEFULLY, TRANSFER THEM TO EMMA'S OWN MEMORIAL SITE I'M GOING TO HAVE SET-UP LATER THIS YEAR AND WHICH WILL BE LINKED TO HER MEMORIAL FUND.
UNFORTUNATELY, BECAUSE I'M NOW FINDING IT TOO OVERWHELMING COMING ONTO THE GTS SITE, PARTICULARLY EMMA'S SITE, THIS IS GOING TO TAKE QUITE A WHILE TO COMPLETE AND FOR EMMA'S MEMORIAL SITE TO BE SET UP. DURING THIS TIME, I WILL THEREFORE BE COMING BACK ON FOR SHORT PERIODS TO ENSURE I'VE SAVED EVERYTHING, FINISH EMMA'S EULOGY PROPERLY, CHECK FOR/DEAL WITH ANY MESSAGES ON MY PAGE AND I WILL ALSO TRY TO LEAVE REGULAR UPDATES AS TO PROGRESS.
HOWEVER, FOR THE FORESEEABLE FUTURE, I WOULD PREFER TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE BY E-MAIL. I STILL HAVE E-MAIL ADDRESSES OF QUITE ALOT OF MY GTS FAMILY AND FRIENDS FROM BEFORE THE SITE WAS RELAUNCHED AND, MOST IF NOT ALL, SHOULD HAVE RECEIVED OR BE SHORTLY RECEIVING E-MAILS FROM ME. IF, THOUGH, YOU HAVEN'T RECEIVED AN E-MAIL FROM ME BY THE END OF THIS MONTH AND YOU WISH TO KEEP IN TOUCH BY E-MAIL THEN PLEASE JUST SEND ME A PM WITH YOUR E-MAIL ADDRESS AND I WILL ADD YOU TO MY ADDRESS BOOK AND KEEP IN TOUCH WITH YOU THIS WAY.
WHILST I AM AWAY, ANY CONTINUED SUPPORT OF EMMA'S SITE IS VALUED ENORMOUSLY AND WILL CONTINUE TO PROVIDE SO MUCH COMFORT FOR MYSELF AND MY FAMILY AS I KNOW EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU UNDERSTAND. I CAN ONLY APOLOGISE THAT I'M NOT ABLE TO SUPPORT YOU ALL IN THE SAME WAY AT THE MOMENT BUT, I WILL WHEN I'M FEELING STRONGER AND IN A BETTER PLACE~I WILL BE BACK~AS I HAVE COME TO SEE YOU ALL AS LIKE A LARGE EXTENDED FAMILY. IN THE MEANTIME, EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU AND YOUR ANGELS HOLD A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY ♥ AND THOUGHTS~THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT AND LOOKING AFTER MY TREASURED ANGEL SO WELL WHILST I AM NOT ABLE TO AND A SPECIAL THANKS TO MY FRIEND KATH FOLEY AND HER DAUGHTER CHLOE WHO ARE KEEPING AN EXTRA SPECIAL EYE ON EMMA AND HELPING WITH THE SITE~MY ♥FELT LOVE, THOUGHTS AND BLESSINGS FOR ALL OF YOU, YOUR FAMILY AND ANGELS~SUE AND MY ANGEL EMMA~xXx~♥*
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Emma passed away as a result of receiving severe head injuries in a RTC (Road Traffic Collision) after being hit by a car on a Pelican Crossing near her Princes Park, Toxteth home on 08/5/2007~Emma's life support had to be turned off the next evening leaving a heartbroken mum, family (2 aunties, uncle, cousins and their partners and 2 children of her eldest cousin), her boyfriend, Graeme (a runner & Bronze Medal Winning Paralympian) her "Running Bear" (Emma was his "Pink Lady"), two very close friends~Sherine, who she'd been friends with since early childhood and has been absolutely lost without her as they went practically everywhere and did so much together that they were more like sisters than friends, and Jenny who she'd been friends with for 12 years and she was also very close to and thought of her more like a sister~and a whole host of other friends and others who knew her...


RAISING THE PROFILE ON AVOIDABLE ROAD DEATHS:-
TO ANY DRIVERS TO HELP PREVENT MORE NEEDLESS, SENSELESS DEATHS ON THE ROAD LIKE EMMA'S PLEASE LOG ONTO:-
www.roadpeace.org
www.brake.org.uk
AND READ SOME OF THE HEARTBREAKING TESTIMONIALS ABOUT DEATHS ON THE ROAD AND YOU CAN ALSO FOLLOW ANY OF THE LINKS ON THEIR PAGES TO FIND OUT HOW YOU CAN HELP TO DO YOUR BIT TO IMPROVE DRIVING STANDARDS ON OUR ROADS. PLEASE DON'T WAIT UNTIL A ROAD DEATH AFFECTS YOU THROUGH THE LOSS OF YOUR CHILD OR A LOVED ONE - IT WILL BE TOO LATE THEN.
I WILL BE WRITING MORE ON THIS ISSUE HERE ON EMMA'S SITE BECAUSE EMMA IS JUST ONE OF THE MANY DEATHS ON OUR ROADS TODAY WHICH, AS ONE OF THE INVESTIGATING OFFICERS INTO EMMA'S DEATH SAID, WAS "AVOIDABLE, NEEDLESS AND TOTALLY DOWN TO DRIVER ERROR", WHICH IS WHY IT IS CALLED A "COLLISION" NOT AN ACCIDENT. IF I CAN SAVE ONE LIFE THROUGH THIS, THEN EMMA'S DEATH WILL NOT HAVE BEEN IN VAIN.
IN THE MEANTIME, PLEASE DRIVE WITH CARE, SLOW DOWN, LOOK AHEAD AND HAVE SOME COURTESY ON OUR ROADS...
AFTER ALL, SURELY IT'S BETTER TO ARRIVE AT YOUR DESTINATION ALIVE, INTACT AND WITHOUT HAVING KILLED OR SERIOUSLY INJURED SOMEONE RATHER THAN BE LIKE THE DRIVER WHO HIT EMMA, WHOSE LIFE HAS ALSO UNDOUBTEDLY BEEN AFFECTED BY HIS ACTIONS...OR MAYBE EVEN DEAD YOURSELF...
FOR NOW, THOUGH, I'LL LEAVE THIS WITH A THOUGHT PROVOKING VERSE FROM A CARD I WAS GIVEN BY THE LOVELY FLORISTS WHERE WE GOT EMMA'S FUNERAL TRIBUTES FROM, FOLLOWED BY A LITTLE MORE ABOUT MY AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER, EMMA LOUISE...REMEMBER HER...


Just the average family
We didn't ask for more,
Then life was changed completely
With that knock upon our door

This awful thing had happened
And none of us knew why,
You were never coming back again
And we didn't say goodbye

Our world just fell to pieces
We cried in disbelief,
We had to stick together
To overcome our grief

We'll never understand it
It all seems so unfair,
We wish we'd hear that knock again
And see you standing there.

Alan G
(c) Grass Roots International

To all who come onto this site & add their tribute and/or light a candle my deepest & heartfelt thanks, love & blessings. Also, my apologies because I have not yet managed to finish the eulogy [below] for my treasure - it is still in the process of 'being', I keep altering it & changing my mind :-)...it is just that I'm finding it incredibly hard...Please be patient, please bear with me & please, if you can, keep popping back...it will be finished soon...for the support you show on this site, I am eternally grateful - it brings me great comfort. Thank You, Sue xxx

MY TREASURE:-
When Emma died she was just coming towards the end of a two year Introductory Diploma in Performing Arts at Liverpool Community College. She loved everything about the Performing Arts: acting, dancing, singing, as well as presenting; and had plans to try her hand at radio presenting and being a D.J. next, as well as aspirations to become a T.V. presenter and a famous actor and singer...
Knowing Emma, she would have succeeded and excelled in all of them, too. Having already been involved in a unique Radio Presentation/D.J. training project in 2003 through MYA (Merseyside Youth Association) at The Door and in conjunction with LIP (Liverpool Inclusion Project) & Likely Alliance (who provided the training & mentoring), which culminated in various young people coming together and broadcasting as LIPfm for a week from a 'studio' in the foyer entrance of our local Asda on Smithdown Road and which Emma absolutely loved and excelled in (she broadcast a show with 2 of her friends from The Door calling themeselves 'The Cheeky Babes'!), she'd already started taking that earlier experience a step further by seeking advice from various radio DJ's (she was hardly ever off the phone to local and national radio stations, was frequently getting herself heard on air in one way or another - mainly phoning Capital Radio in London! - and put our phone bills up somewhat as a result!), finding out how they got to where they were, etc., and had just drafted a letter to all the local hospitals to try to get into hospital radio broadcasting. On top of this, having responded to an article and appeal she saw in the local paper earlier in the year for young actors and actresses to feature and/or be extras in locally made film and T.V. productions, only a couple of weeks before she died she'd been invited to sign-up with a local castings agency (The Castings Factory) where they'd taken such a shine to her that she'd been invited back for a 'reading' on the 18th June so that they could put her forward for speaking parts...Something, which sadly, was never to be...
But, I'll never forget her face when she came out of that castings agency: I'd been waiting a bit nervously across the road in the outside area of the 'Slug and Lettuce', trying to make one coffee then an orange juice last an hour; I'd wanted to go in with her but, didn't want to be like the 'over protective' mum; and, anyway, 'Miss Independence' assured me she could manage without me...she was after all 23! It was a glorious sunny Saturday afternoon. I kept looking at the time and thinking "what's taking so long to fill in a registration form?!" Then suddenly, after just over an hour, Emma appeared and came over to join me: she was absolutely glowing, like the late afternoon sun, radiant and 'buzzing'; and, over a bite to eat, excitedly told me "I think they liked me mum! I think I did O.K. 'cos they took pictures of me - I had to pose for the photographer - and I've got to come back for a reading..." Then, with her usual innocence, "Does that mean they liked me, mum, does that mean I did O.K.?"...More than O.K. sweetheart, more than O.K....
Emma, you see, had learning difficulties - special needs - as a result of being born with a brain dysfunction/brain damage, which was eventually diagnosed around her fourth birthday, and as a result she'd never had a lot of confidence in her own abilities when she was younger. Part of that lack of confidence stems from 'the system': the way learning difficulties (along with Mental Health Services) are treated as the 'poor relation' in regard to providing services; the education system being an isolating, 'segregating' experience for those who could not cope in a mainstream environment and somehow falling short of properly integrating special needs into the mainstream system; coupled with the fact that some people in society can be very cruel if they notice a 'difference' in others. Then, there's the fact that in this country [at least] so much importance seems to be put on 'educational standards', qualifications, etc., etc. It all goes towards eroding any child's confidence that as a parent one is trying to instil in them...I could go on(!) but, I won't - :-) - instead, back to my beautiful daughter...
Fortunately for Emma, she had a mother in me who was 'like a rottweiler with a bone' (she once overheard the headteacher of her last school, Watergate in Woolton Village which has since closed down, saying he was glad I was on 'their side' when we were fighting to keep the school open because I was 'like a rottweiler...' and Emma loved that, calling me her own personal rottweiler and guard dog!) and I was used to fighting for her all of her life: rooting out services; fighting for her rights (and mine!); taking on service providers; and ensuring her needs were met. In conjunction with that, Emma also had her own fighting spirit: she never saw herself as 'different', just differently abled; and she was one determined little cookie from the start...stubborn sometimes, yes! (but then, so am I!!)...but, determined always. Emma knew what she wanted and she went for it...
Along the way she amassed more qualifications, certificates, prizes and achievements than a lot of people twice her age. Although never an attention-seeking child or one who pushed herself forward (more of a gentle, slowly blossoming 'wallflower' than anything), from soon after she started school she was always come homing with a certificate or glowing reference for good attendance, promptness (unlike her mum!), neatness, kindness to her fellow pupils, helping out, etc. And she just went on amassing them: by the time she left school at 16 she also had a Work Experience certificate for Nursery Nursing, having been welcomed back to the nursery where she'd done an earlier short placement because all the staff and children had loved her, as well as a certificate for Painting & Decorating from going on a day release course at one of the local colleges. That's not to mention the WEB Certificates (Welsh Examining Board, which at that time was the awarding body for achievements in Special Schools in Liverpool) she also got in school for English, Maths, Science, Home Economics and Personal & Social Education. No mean achievements for a young person with 'learning difficulties'. O.K. so she may never have excelled in the world of academia, may always have struggled with more taxing written and mathematical stuff but, there's more to life than academic, written and mathematical achievements and Emma always tried, knew what she wanted and went for it - putting her heart and soul into what she did.